love

[Scrinlord]

Do you guys believe that it is possible for younger people to fall in love?

I dont know how old any of you guys are, but I am 17, and a lot of people tell me that I am to young to know what real love it, but I think that they are wrong.

What do you guys think? (I actually AM going somewhere with this topic, probably)

Tell me your oppinion, and if possible, your ages so I know what age people are thinking what.

Thanks guys

[Mahdi]

Let me guess: You think you're in love, right?

Well, I'm 19. Personally, I don't think I know what love is. I mean, I know the psychologocial definition (as much of one as there is) and the theoretical difference between it and lust, and the idea that it's nothing more than chemical reactions colliding throughout your skull, but right now I would never trust myself to believe that I am in love.

Last semester I spent four months absolutly pining (yeah, I said it, and I'll say it again) for one particular girl who I saw as being absolutly perfect. She blinded me to everyother girl in Ottawa. She was the first person I thought about when I woke up, only person I thought about during the day, alst person I thought about before going to sleep, and more often than not the only person I dreamed about (nice, clean dreams. Get your head out of the gutter).

But even with all that, I'd never admit to myself the possibility that I was in love. I'm just too young to know the difference between love and infatuation.

If I were you, I'd talk to the girl, get to know her a little better, then make a move. She may shoot you down (multiple times) but at least youg ave it a shot. And,b elive it or not, if she does shoot you down, you'll at least feel free. And you'll get over her eventually.

[Acriku]

When you feel you would sacrifice anything in the world for another person, even your life, it is then when you are in love. Nothing less, nothing more. If you feel this geniunely while still sucking on your mom's *bleeps* I don't know what to say...

[Andrew]

I think it would also depend on if you are currently in a relationship and also if you have been in a relatoinship. That could alter your judgement. (but me never been in a real relationship so I cannot compare it to a relationship I have been in.) poor me..at least I dont have to do whatever "the" woman(as in girlfriend) wants to do or me to buy her. :D

dont ask me if this is suppsoed to be in this topic, I like to rant about this stuff. Most of my friends are in relationships, and one thing they(relationships) do is make less time for me. (also the fact that they are all 19 and go to bars while I sit home on the computer doing nothing. and they go to bars at 7 at evening sometimes)

oh and I am 18 (when I turn 19 in June I will go to bars and have lots of fun ;) ) and have witnessed many relationships crash and burn (and hurt friendship alot) and it makes me wonder why I dont have a woman.(other than for unmentionable desires if I got one ::) ) or maybe if I got a woman it would be better.

There my rant is over for this post.

[IxianMace]

I'm currently 18, (turned 18 January 19). I think it IS possible for younger people to fall in love, however that would depend largely on how mature they are mentally. People mature at different rates, so it would vary about whether a young person is in 'love' or not. I myself have not met a single person that I have been attracted to and considered spending the rest of my life with them, I have only seen people that look attractive to me physically. Therefore, I have never fallen in 'love'.

It's possible but not likely, that young people can truly fall in 'love' (as in meet someone they want to spend the rest of their lives with), since at that age, would you really be thinking about how you're going to plan to spend the rest of your life with the 'love of your life'? It would probably be more likely to be just a physical attraction. After that, there would be getting to know each others' personality, etc etc. But I doubt that the thought of spending the rest of your lives together would be of much concern, at least not until the relationship is well established, or has lasted for a long time to really consider things beyond the superficial attraction. I guess it really depends on the emotional/mental maturity of the person, at any given age.

[thomas]

I believe its possible but not likely most young relationships hardly last at all.

[Acriku]

Many young people think they are in love but then the next day find a hotter companion ::) Not many mature when young.

[DjCiD]

Im sure many of the younger generation experiance the drug released by the hypothalamus which gives them taht feelin gof being 'in love', but I'm not sure how many of them actually find their soul mate at that time.

[Digital Guerrilla]

Love is struggle love is pain love is one of life's hardest lessons next to living. I loved someone who did not love me back the way I thought I loved her. It's not about her because it was not what I thought it was no need to fool myself. The first time you get hurt experience will tell you that it's a learning phase. You think it is one sided but it is not it is universal among both male and female.

[DjCiD]

Love is a drug. Huey Lewis wrote a song about it... who can name that song? ;D

[hide]I Want A New Drug

Huey Lewis & The News

I want a new drug - one that won't make me sick,

One that won't make me crash my car, or make me feel three feet thick.

I want a new drug - one that won't hurt my head,

One that won't make my mouth too dry, or make my eyes too red.

One that won't make me nervous, wonderin' what to do.

One that makes me feel like I feel when I'm with you, when I'm alone with you.

I want a new drug - one that won't spill.

One that don't cost too much, or come in a pill.

I want a new drug - one that won't go away,

One that won't keep me up all night, one that won't make me sleep all day.

One that won't make me nervous, wonderin' what to do ...

I'm alone with you, baby.

I want a new drug - one that does what it should,

One that won't make me feel too bad,

One that won't make me feel too good.

I want a new drug - one with no doubt,

One that won't make me nervous, wonderin' what to do. ...

I'm alone with you, I'm alone with you, yeah.[/hide]

[Edric O]

It depends on the maturity of the person. Some people can be very mature at 17, others are still childish even at 30.

Personally, I can tell you with absolute certainty I've never felt anything even slightly close to love. Nor do I wish to. I have more important things to do.

[Digital Guerrilla]

that is just sad :'( :'( :'(

[IxianMace]

I have more important things to do.

So Edric, do you think that a person's ability to love another is unimportant? :(

[Nyarlathotep]

I'm 32 and I think I can say a few things about the issue due to experience

I do think youger people can fall in love. I met my wife when I was 18 or so. Do youngsters know what love is ? Well yeah, if it hits them they'll know. Question remains if young people should seek love while they're young. I don't think they should. They hould enjoy being young. If love hits them, fine, but don't go seeking for it.

To the question how do you know what love is, there's no real answer for anyone to give. Like said, I met my wife when I was 18 (she 17). We got married and had a daughter. 3 years ago we got a divorce, but stayed friends (yes, you can be friends when you divorce). After a year - year and a half, we both felt like we were missing eachother. I then realized what true love was. Since a year now we're living together again as a happy family. Sometimes it seems like I'm more happy then before.

Does love mean not being able to live without someone ?

Does love mean you're willing to do anything for someone ?

Does love mean you can't stop thinking about someone ?

Does love mean you want to sing for someone (nice one btw Dj :))?

Does love mean you can communicate well with someone ?

You tell me ;)

[Dude_Doc]

I fell in love with one girl in my class... just like that... there must be something wrong with me...

:P

[Andrew]

they say if you drop out or fail university at least you come out with a wife. (i have heard of this happening) or you meet the right person at univeristy.

[Chani]

I think if you get knocked down by love you know. It doesn't matter if you're 17, 27, 77....

BUT I do think there are so many different types of love.

I love so many people in so many ways.

I just came out of a long term relationship and it was..... comfortable. I would have stayed with him for the rest of my life if he hadn't fallen in love with someone else. But was I *in* love with him? Or did I just love him. I know I love him. But I don't think I was *in* love with him. And if I was in love with him I would know... right? So I wasn't. Yet I love him strongly enough to spend the past three and a half years with him.

I dunno.. maybe you can just love people for your whole life. I mean, you're capable of feeling love from day 1. But *in* love... yeah.. I bet you can be in love at 17. I also think you can *think you are in love at 17 and realise a few years later that were weren't after all when you meet someone who you really are in love with. If you get me. It's all just a big confusing mess most of the time though let's be honest.

If you think you are in love then you probably aren't.

If you know you are in love then you are.

Regardless of age.

[Caid Ivik]

By your definition we should love everybody, not only "many people". Love for the society must shine from every our action.

[Chani]

yeah... yeah you're right.

[ken124578]

I'm 32

I thought you were somewhere close to the 54 :O

[Anathema]

That was cold... shame on you Ken.

I can't say I ever really been in love with anyone, otherwise I figure I'd have known.

[Edric O]

So Edric, do you think that a person's ability to love another is unimportant?

There are many types of love. In the case of the one we are talking about, then yes.

[Terror]

well i'm 18, and i think it differs per person. And to be truly honest, only days ago i didn't look at a girl anymore because of lust, but i found myself wanting to love, truly love. I was ready to begin a relation realy based on love. I don't think i can explain realy well. And you will have to find out for yourselves, but i'm pretty sure i got it now.

Perhaps some people never truly learn how to love.. i don't know... same goes for that some persons just never mature.

[nemafakei]

My best guide can be 'Do not hurry'.

Ignore and block out your emotions so that your decisions are unaffected by them. If a good friendship develops, continue, else keep them blocked until they change their direction.

If there is good friendship, maintain this for a year at bare minimum. If you can honestly (and logically - not emotionally) say you would enjoy living the rest of your life with that person, continue, else desist.

If you are prepared to do this, and you still feel emotionally about them and no other, observe to see if the same is true for the person whom you 'love' about you. If so, continue, else stop.

Now, start considering the serious possibility of 'love' - such as it is, remembering that

Remember: letting emotions sway your judgement will lead to problems, and will do you no good whatsoever.

[emprworm]

my opinion (this is only my opinion which few respect anyway lol ;D )

I believe love is a verb, it is not a noun. Young people in their teenage years have the capacity to experience the passions of love (the emotions and attractions), but few truly understand the depths of love (the actions)- which is the true meaning of what love is. Emotional love is always shallow, because it is based on feeling all tingly. True love is deep because it goes beyond feelings and into commitment. Commitment is saying that "I will hold to this promise I made to you, even if it means I may have to give up something in my life, or I have to endure hardship". Love is not real until it is tested....and tested by fire. Until that time happens, your love does not contain depth, and it is shallow. What is a test of fire? You will know when the time comes. And it is not something like 'well we fought last week and made up". At age 17, it is unlikely (not impossible, but highly unlikely) that any such tests have befallen you and your significant other. A test of fire would be, for example, when your careers take you on two different paths so that you live apart from each other for three...maybe 4 years so that even through time, your commitments are true and loyal...and as such, your love has been strengthened.

just my .02