King-Mega Posted June 12, 2003 Posted June 12, 2003 Hello,Anyway I really like this girl and I want a relationship going between me and her what can I do. I don't know her and she doesn't know me. Though sometimes I say hi and she might say hi and that's the end of it. She is very beautiful and I want to date her. What are the things I can do so that she likes me and a relationship starts going. I don't know anytihng about dating and need your help please. :-[
nemafakei Posted June 12, 2003 Posted June 12, 2003 Before doing something, you must consider s few things, e.g. "Why?"Note: This idea of yours is especially improper given that you don't know the person. Know people first, then, after a decent length of time (no less than several months), you may consider anything other.
King-Mega Posted June 12, 2003 Author Posted June 12, 2003 I correct that she knows me for half a year but not very well but a little. 8)
nemafakei Posted June 12, 2003 Posted June 12, 2003 When I say 'know', I don't just mean pass the time, I mean actually be good friends for that amount of time, (though the precise meaning of that is hard to pin down). Know first that you can trust them.
gryphon Posted June 12, 2003 Posted June 12, 2003 I agree with Nema, you really like a girl you in fact don't know all that well. Just her looks. Just get together in small conversations, a drink for a few minutes, building up from there. If you both like eachother I'll grow naturally.In most cases there is a differance from just knowing some one for a long time and the relation is mainly based upon friendship, and knowing eachother with a relation build on more then friendship.
Nyarlathotep Posted June 12, 2003 Posted June 12, 2003 When you try to get to know her better, don't focus on the dating. Focus on getting to know her better...
Apollyon Posted June 12, 2003 Posted June 12, 2003 I disagree; Go on a date and get to know her better on those dates. Try initiating converdation with her and get to know her likes and dislikes and then use the knowledge to your advantage... Oh and don't act big headed, it helps a lot.EDIT: Oh and what Nyar said is right, don't forget that you're dating her to get to know her, so stuff like cinema isn't a great idea at first. Go somewhere you can talk...
King-Mega Posted June 12, 2003 Author Posted June 12, 2003 Thanks everyone for their comments. Keep on giving me the ideas and thanks alot. 8)
SpiceGuid Posted June 12, 2003 Posted June 12, 2003 * date her if you can, whatever the long-time outcome, having dated a good looking girl really adds to your self-confidence until you are married* girls reject depending (lack of) appearance, popularity and money. often the girl has already mentally rejected you according to these criteria but otherwise acts like if you had a chance. for girls love and better social position is one and same thing. whatever a girl invokes she has rejected you according to one of the above criteria. don't insist, never ask twice, forget immediatly as not a good partner for you.* when you date the girl she think she has accessed your demand and she implicitly expects some return. if you don't or can't give the return she expects then the relationship can last between 3 to 15 days. the girl will not help you, she think you should know what is good for her.in my opinion many guys misunderstand girls:* after all it is natural that the beautiful, the succesfull and the rich are more attractive* if the girl doesn't say "i also love you" then obviously she only access your demand. in my opinion it is legitimate that she expects some return. also you can't blame her if the expecting is implicit (girls are not whores)
Andrew Posted June 13, 2003 Posted June 13, 2003 I agree with Nema, you really like a girl you in fact don't know all that well. Just her looks. Just get together in small conversations, a drink for a few minutes, building up from there. If you both like eachother I'll grow naturally.In most cases there is a differance from just knowing some one for a long time and the relation is mainly based upon friendship, and knowing eachother with a relation build on more then friendship.sorry, offtopic but when I was reading I could'nt stop laughing.."I'll grow naturally." lolAnd yes I know he meant It'll, but it was to funny to think otherwise.(sorry) :DGet to know her, maybe see if you know any of her friends that way it may be easier to get "close" (as in see her more often by way of association)
Navaros Posted June 13, 2003 Posted June 13, 2003 kingmega,show her your "degree" from Harvard. that's sure to impress her just as much as it impresses all of us ::)
exatreide Posted June 13, 2003 Posted June 13, 2003 nav....man....that was harsh.....but lmao dude that was good :D
lowzeewee Posted June 13, 2003 Posted June 13, 2003 kingmega,show her your "degree" from Harvard. that's sure to impress her just as much as it impresses all of us ::)Maybe she prefers brawns over brains,errr....I mean "degrees"Nav.....show me your Birth Cert and I will believe that you are human ::)
Chani Posted June 13, 2003 Posted June 13, 2003 it sounds like obvious advice.. but i'd go with..TALK to her.there's nothing else you can do!just get talking and see what happens, *then* you can work on more.
Davidu Posted June 13, 2003 Posted June 13, 2003 Try to be her best friend, so that you'll get to know her and she gets to know you. First be friends. Actually that's what matters the most: the ability to understand the other. If you're in love with her, well, even better, but don't do impulsive things.
Dante Posted June 13, 2003 Posted June 13, 2003 I'd say something but I haven't exactly been successful in the dating department myself... :'(
gryphon Posted June 13, 2003 Posted June 13, 2003 @AndrewI realise it now. . . . :-[@ChaniYou know there is a saying, if you want to get into a girls pants, listen to her. ..
Caid Ivik Posted June 13, 2003 Posted June 13, 2003 I would say primary thing is to seek for a decent way to find out if she looks at you as you do at her.Pity I haven't this idea some weeks ago...
thomas Posted June 13, 2003 Posted June 13, 2003 @nav >:( dude that was harsh man I mean seriouly that was uncalled for >:( and totally hilarious ;D ;D
lowzeewee Posted June 13, 2003 Posted June 13, 2003 kingmega,show her your "degree" from Harvard. that's sure to impress her just as much as it impresses all of us ::)Maybe she prefers brawns over brains,errr....I mean "degrees"Nav.....show me your Birth Cert and I will believe that you are human ::)How's this?
TMA_1 Posted June 13, 2003 Posted June 13, 2003 I would suggest leaving her alone, it sounds to me that you already have no real reason to date her other then the fact that you find her attractive. any good reasons? you dont know her so you wish to be with her because you can potentially have sex with her? priorities man, stick with knowing somebody first, so that you will actually carry on a meaningful relationship.
drahgoon Posted June 13, 2003 Posted June 13, 2003 btw does anybody know how to get rid of rumers that arnt true ??? it has happened twice to me, both by her freinds. so does anybody have any suggestions ???
Seal89999 Posted June 13, 2003 Posted June 13, 2003 If you learn more about them than go for it. Just talk to the girl and become friends. Once there ask her out to dinner and a movie or something. The more fancy the restaurant the bigger effect you will have on the person, show them you are sofisticated(spelling). I also havent been the MOST succeful in the dating department either but I still have gone out with a few girls. I right now like somebody that i am not friends with, she is very beautiful and I have known her since hmmmmm grade school but we never talked much. I just sorta observe from a far. But I am slowly working my way to get her offection. You just got to work at it man. Play it cool and move slow and you will be fine. Love is a tricky thing but when you get it under contol its really great.Good luck!
Caid Ivik Posted June 13, 2003 Posted June 13, 2003 How to prevent friends or anyone else from talking rumors against you? Here is no peaceful way, maybe only passivity. Altough it doesn't mean ignoring is useless.
Davidu Posted June 13, 2003 Posted June 13, 2003 Dust: I'm not good at that dept. either, but I'm good at advices. ;)Actually Knig Mega, do as you feel. And don't be afraid. And don't be silly.
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