love

[Seal89999]

Do you guys believe that it is possible for younger people to fall in love?

I dont know how old any of you guys are, but I am 17, and a lot of people tell me that I am to young to know what real love it, but I think that they are wrong.

What do you guys think? (I actually AM going somewhere with this topic, probably)

Tell me your oppinion, and if possible, your ages so I know what age people are thinking what.

Thanks guys

well il tell you this. If I cant feel true love than i dont know what im fellin.........

hell yes is its possiable for younger people to feel true love.

[TMA_1]

On a metaphysical level, true love at its base is not a feeling. Though feelings are welcomed to be attached to it, it is dangerous to confuse feelings and true love. I know by experiance and probably would make the same mistake again.lol It is easy to catch fake love with the true stuff. You will eventually argue all the time, you will think about other people, you will grow to dislike the other person, and all you are in it for is the time spent on the relationship, the fact that you "love" her, and sex.lol You see, from what I can surmise, love doesnt need an ache of desire or a need. True lovers feed off of eachother perfectly, they dont need more. those are my two cents.lol

[Nyarlathotep]

I'm 32

I thought you were somewhere close to the 54 :O

Don't think, be sure :)

[Caid Ivik]

My best guide can be 'Do not hurry'.

Ignore and block out your emotions so that your decisions are unaffected by them. If a good friendship develops, continue, else keep them blocked until they change their direction.

If there is good friendship, maintain this for a year at bare minimum. If you can honestly (and logically - not emotionally) say you would enjoy living the rest of your life with that person, continue, else desist.

If you are prepared to do this, and you still feel emotionally about them and no other, observe to see if the same is true for the person whom you 'love' about you. If so, continue, else stop.

Now, start considering the serious possibility of 'love' - such as it is, remembering that

Remember: letting emotions sway your judgement will lead to problems, and will do you no good whatsoever.

I think this should be called: "A Way To Become A Good Clear." Author L.R.Hubbard ;D

[gryphon]

"you don't know what you have untill you've lost it"

That's my experians with it.

Apart from that, can't get the idea out of my head. Ones had it with anthropology. The brain doesn't have a pre-set state that indicates an emotion. Any emotion, love, hate, envy, happiness . .they are all the same. Just states of mind. And those millions of way's our mind can be in, are interpreted by "us" as an emotion. Which, given the situation will make us "feel" the thing we call emotion.

My current signature may have some meaning to though ;)

[Scrinlord]

sorry I have not read this recently, but I ahve been ahving PC troubles. I dont have time to read everything now, so i will just respond to a few things.

Let me guess: You think you're in love, right?

No, I KNOW I am in love. I have been going out with her for a few months now, and I KNOW I am in love. I know the difference between lust and love and I know what I am.

But I have a problem. well, 2 problems actually.

Problem 1. My gf really wants to do a DCI marching band(Troopers, for those of you who know anything about it) but it costs 1000 dollars to march with them, and they are gone all summer. There are 2 problems with this 1.) I dont think that she is ready for something that big, but she thinks that she is. 2) I will be unable to march witht the troopers this summer, and I honestly dont know if I can be without her without going nuts all summer, because we will barely be able to talk. But she wants to do it, and I cant bring myself to ask her not to go for either of the above stated reasons, what do you guys think I should do?

problem # 2) I am a year older than my GF, and I am leaving for college next fall. Do you guys think it is possible for us to continue our relationship long distance?

[Acriku]

Unless you are predeterminedly married to her, let her go easily and just come to accept terms that your lives are going in two different ways and for too long.

[Andrew]

well, I dont think long distance relationships work.(depend on distance) and at college there should be plenty of "fish" (in the sea)

although i did see a relationship work when someone went to university 1 year before the girlfriend and it is still working out. but it was not really long distance as they seen each other once a week or so.(they did not even come from same undergraduate school)

[Scrinlord]

I know there will be plenty of "fish in the sea" but I dont want any other fish, I want HER.

[Acriku]

Ok, then if you are both willing to commit to a long distance relationship, then try it! But don't whine to anybody if it ends on bad terms. Good luck at it :)

[nemafakei]

"I know there will be plenty of "fish in the sea" but I dont want any other fish"

Good.

Stick with what you believe... don't go to ridiculous lengths to stay wihh this peson, but agree to keep in contact and keep going. Deviation is dishonest.

"But she wants to do it, and I cant bring myself to ask her not to go for either of the above stated reasons"

Don't ask her not to go; suggest these reasons to her, without trying to get her not to go.