Apathy, boredom or similar

[Egeides]

My goal is really to get a serious discussion out of it.

Here's the situation:

I went to a party where everyone was talking and so on. Basically, I talk here and there but am generally out of the whole thing while accepted as an almost-silent member.

I am now back and I wonder from where this feeling comes from, why we feel such feelings and how it works. Here's the feeling: apathy, something's missing, I would take my skis and downhill just to have the impression (illusion I believe) of doing SOMETHING (something in the sense of something that's not without essence, without use in the interior world, without use in the real world).

My goal is not to talk to you about my day: as most people I have some higher and lower moments, but I'm ok. I'd like to know where you believe this comes from, how it works and why it is there. Something's missing and it seems to be the cornerstone of humans' essence. It seems to be the same feeling for love, friendship and interior calm: all this seems to have the same source.

Is this need for love, friendship and interior calm (which is linked to the spiritual (not only God-related) ) ALL the same thing? Or is it all pretty different? Seems so similar... Where do you think it comes from? What IS this damn human cornerstone?!

Was I understandable in this post?

Now I'm gonna go listen to some Mozart.... (why exactly? not even sure. Arrgggg)

[Tio_Holtzmann]

i dont know, although i would say that it's true that with the ordinary and with humans, that feeling of emptiness will be guaranteed to pop up at some point, unless you're good at repressing/dealing with it. but i think people will at some point in their lives respond to love and acceptance. the point is not everyone gets it and that might shape their future development.

[Acriku]

An offbalance of seratonin and dopamine can produce depression effects.

[Caid Ivik]

It is hard to find friends which like to think and talk deeply. Sometimes, you have to adapt. There are many things you don't even consider to think about, but for someone it may seem interesting. And if you start a talk, it is always fruitful. One lost opportunity of verbal contact is like a loss of any treasure.

[Egeides]

Acriku, these chemical stuff are only particles moving from a place to another, not the emotion itself. Emotions generally also have a contextual reason. It's the case for other emotions (which brings physical reactions), so it has to be looked at here too.

[Andrew]

I went to a party where everyone was talking and so on. Basically, I talk here and there but am generally out of the whole thing while accepted as an almost-silent member.

Sadly I am the same way. Was bar crawling with some friends, but it was pointless. so is everthing. Wish I had a pic of my t-shirt.

I listen to Neil Young, it helps me.

I am usually apathetic, as it is logical although false. life sucks.

Sorry. :(

[Egeides]

I don't think that it sucks, and I think it can be even better if we can arrange the irregularities and imbalances.

So let's stay on the debate:

Is this need for love, friendship and interior calm (which is linked to the spiritual (not only God-related) ) ALL the same thing? Or is it all pretty different? Seems so similar... Where do you think it comes from? What IS this damn human cornerstone?!

[Caid Ivik]

I am sure you do have some friends, even loved ones. You must just make this feeling deeper. From that you will receive interior calm. And this will return your hapiness.